“Empathy and the “Feels
Isn’t it upsetting when things get out of control, someone hurts you or your child is being defiant? Our preschool department has been working on a book study called “Conscious Discipline” by Dr. Becky Bailey. One of the seven chapters in her book is dedicated to the feeling of Empathy. Dr. Bailey states to get to the heart of these trying times we need to be a S.T.A.R. which stands for “Smile, Take a deep breath ,And Relax”. We have adapted this in our classes as “Stop, Take a deep breath, And Relax”. While becoming a STAR, you also need to accept things as they are instead of focusing on what should of happened or what you wanted to happen. This is also the time to pray. “Feelings are not caused by events, but by our perception of events” (Bailey,pg 191). When your child or student is upset, watch how you react because your reaction teaches that child how to respond to others when they are upset. Using the feeling of Empathy, you do not need to agree or disagree with the situation, but rather the key is to STAR, accept the situation as it is, listen, mirror what the individual expressed, respond with understanding, and then strive to help them find a solution. I would recommend this book study as Dr. Bailey offers a wealth of insight and knowledge about how Conscious Discipline connects to certain parts of the brain that are responsible for an individual's reaction and how you can help children (and adults) work through those tough times the "brain smart" way.
THE CRAYON BOX
While walking through a toy store the day before today, I overheard a crayon box with many things to say.
"I don't like Red!" said Yellow, and Green said "Nor do I" "And no one here likes Orange but no one knows just why".
"We are a box of crayons that doesn't get along,” Said Blue to all the others "Something here is wrong".
Well, I bought that box of crayons and took it home with me, And laid out all the colors so the crayons all could see.
They watched me as I colored with Red and Blue and Green, And Black and White and Orange and every color in between.
They watched as Green became the grass and Blue became the sky, The Yellow sun was shining bright on White clouds drifting by.
Colors changing as they touched becoming something new, They watched me as I colored - they watched me till I was through.
And when I finally finished I began to walk away, And as I did the crayon box had something more to say.
"I do like Red!" said Yellow, and Green said, "So do I!" And Blue you were terrific! So high up in the sky!
"We are a box of crayons each one of us unique, But when we get together the picture is more complete."